Sunday, April 25, 2010

Family Ties

I have the honor of being apart of 2 new moms-to-be baby showers. My favorite part is that I now have a legit reason to go in the baby department and ooh and aah with Emma Grace over all the cute baby things and complain that they didn't have this or that 11 years ago.

All this baby shopping and planning has got everyone from my mom to Emma Grace asking if I was sure I didn't want another baby. The truth is that I never planned on only one child. John and I just assumed we would have more. Now I realize that is not going to be the case and that is OK. Some things in life can not be planned. I am grateful for the chance to live life as a one child family. We have a dynamic in our little household that is sweet and very close. John teases Emma Grace enough so she knows how a brother might have tortured her and I try to provide enough girlfriend time so that she understands the fun of sisters. We make our friends into family. I hope she will do the same.

I love my family that I was born into, but I feel the same for my family of friends. How blessed we are with many people to call on in good times and bad. It's not always easy keeping up, but always worth it! So to all my friends (family!) from Texas to New York and all in between, know that I love you and am grateful that you help provide Emma Grace with the extended family that helps make her who she is and will become.

As for babies, John and I are willing to wait 15 or 20 years for a grand baby to spoil rotten!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

The Big Picture

Do you know the eye color of your best friend? How about hair color? Moles? Tatooes? I can not always be counted on the remember these things, even for very dear, close friends.

I love peanut butter pie. My dear friend, Diane, does not! It has taken me about 10 years to remember this fact! We have had this same conversation many, many times...
Me, "Let's go get peanut butter pie!"
Diane, "I hate peanut butter pie."
Me, "Really?!? I thought you loved it. Did I know you didn't like it."
Diane (paitently), "Yes, I have told you this the last time. And the time before that, etc."


I have wondered about myself and why these little details escape me. I know just chalk it up to the way I am and the way I look at things.

I love the big picture more than the details. I may not remember your hair color, but I do remember the way you make me feel. Happy, sad, mad, excited! I feel your heart first and get the outside appearance later. I like that better than details! And as I grow older and saggier, I hope I meet more "Big Picture" people, too.

So don't worry if I have forgotten your favorite food or where you grew up. I will remember your heart and why your are my friend! Thank you for the chance to learn that. It's MY favorite thing.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Reality Check

My birthday is tomorrow. I was not really dreading it as I still have a couple of years before the BIG 4-0. I was feeling pretty good about myself and my age until tonight!

Our church was in charge of providing food for the college students at Wesley Foundation tonight. I was excited to bring food and be a servant to these students. It was like coming full circle from my college days at Wesley and eating meals provided by local churchs in Columbus, MS. How great to give back in a way I was given to at The "W".

Here is the AH HA moment of the evening...

As I carried food into the building, a cute, YOUNG college student stopped and asked in her sweet, YOUNG voice, "Oh are you one of the student's mother?"


Then reality hit me. I COULD have an 18 year old! Holy old lady, Batman! How did this happen? When did I age? I only feel about 30 or 28 or 27.

I will look at this new year differently. I now feel the need to embrace this age and make it work for me, the girl at heart in the body of a"mother". Maybe next year the body will be better, I hope the girl at heart is still the same!

Friday, April 9, 2010


Have you ever seen the ads for a certain air conditioner that claims "It's hard to stop a Trane"? Well, apparently I am Superman (Superwoman?) and can stop a "Trane" in its track! Our less than 7 year old unit is no longer working. I knew it was bad when the repair men would not look me in the eye and said they would have to call back with a quote on price. NEVER a good sign! I saw the hopes on a new sofa go out my open windows!

After a small indulgent pout, I put on my big girl panties (big being the main word) and rethought my options. I realized I needed to be thankful that I had the money earmarked for my sofa to now use on the air conditioner. God is good. I than used my creative side to redo my 12 year old sofa into a fun, unusual piece of furniture with the use of a slipcover and old curtain fabric that I had saved. This project gave me more satisfaction than picking out a new.

Thank you, God, for reminding me that from set backs or adversity can come wonderful, beautiful things and people. Now if I could just leap buildings in a single bound!

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Here I go...

Let me tell you a not so kept secret. I am a plant killer. I kill plants and am now admitting it to all. Well, maybe more like a plant neglector. I don't do the killing on purpose, they just seem to die slowly and silently.

My husband, John, would worry about this BC (before child). His concern was that if I couldn't keep a plant alive, how would I keep a baby going. I explained to him that plants die without so much as a peep to me, but babies tend to make lots of noise! Our daughter is almost 11 years old now. I was right about the noise. She never missed a watering or feeding!

Wish that was also true about our own spiritual walk. Our spiritual life needs attention much like those plants (and babies!). Without time given in study, meditation, and worship, it will start to wither and die slowly. But lucky for me, God never gives up on us even after a dry spell (unlike all those plants I have killed!). We always have a chance to start the watering and nurturing again.

So here I go with a new sense of direction in my spiritual walk. I am also turning over a new leaf (pun intended) with plant maintance. I will buy new ferns for my front porch tomorrow! Wish me luck. I will keep you posted!